 - Last login: 5 weeks agoBorderlineLife
- Russ is a 41 year old guy from OZ, California, USA.
- Likes 143 pages, 2 videos • 11 fans • Received 3 reviews
- Member since Aug 07, 2007
Hi everyone! Welcome to my life as a mate of a person with a borderline personality disorder. These are my stories, my thoughts, my research, my feelings, my trials, my decisions. I've decided to stick with her even though authorities tell me to run, run far and fast. I love my Borderline.
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Red Flags (part 8)
- They break their partner's spirit to keep them dependent. - Repeatedly... even last night.
- Survive on threats and intimidations to keep others chained to them. - Not at first but now all the time.
- Sabotage anything that makes their partner happy. Want partner to be happy only through them and to have few or no outside interests, friends or relationships with family. - Yes. Even to the point of sabotaging relationships with old friends.
- Highly contradictory. He loves me, he hates me. They threaten their partner with poverty, then indulge their partner or the relationship. - Yes and this one is very hard to take.
- They are always working somebody over - either subtly or aggressively - for a favor, deal, break, freebie, discount, etc. - Yes.
- Double standard. They're free to do their thing, but expect others to be what they want them to be, do what they want them to do. They don't let others be themselves. - Yes and this one has caused many arguments.
- Convincing. Successful at getting other people to believe in their perception of a problem. Are adamant that people side with them vs. allowing people to feel or believe differently. - Yes. I've learned to really hold my ground.
- They hide who they really are from everyone. No one knows the real person inside. - I have started seeing little glimpses of who she really is. This part is scary.
- They scorn everyone and everything that they disagree with. They do not allow for differences to be respected and they scorn the responsible world. - Yes.
- Difficult to pin them down to a certain level of integrity that you can live with. They resist all efforts to define their values, behaviors, standards. - Definitely. I've not even sure what her values are.
-- so far 57 out of 70.
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